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rinueAs the current Supreme Court debate brings gay panic out of the woodwork, it's old hat to say that it's thinly-veiled misogyny, which doesn't make it less true. You talk to any of the anti-gay men for much time and it boils down to "I think it's gross and unnatural to want to be penetrated," which makes a lot of assumptions about gay male sex (where not everyone bottoms, or even does anal at all) and makes lesbians invisible, but also condemns all straight women.
It's hard to let go of a belief system in which you are, from birth, granted dominion over all the earth, created in the image of God, symbolized by your penetrating cock, and the fact that gay men use their cocks differently (and lesbians don't need them at all) is threatening to that system. You let gays get married, and next thing you know, women won't be obligated to flirt with you and random strangers on train platforms won't have to smile and nod when you feel like enlightening them about whatever unconsidered opinion pops into your head that day. It would be the end of civilization, basically.
So it's fine to have sex out of marriage, and it's fine to have non-procreative sex just for intimacy or fun, and it's fine to have sodomistic sex - blow jobs and anal and all the rest. Just as long as men remain definitively the fuckers.
But as I've said, all this is old hat. I've accepted it.
However, something that, in all seriousness, confuses me when someone can't imagine having a cock up their ass is: do these people not shit? Are they biological abberations that don't defecate? I realize it's not exactly the same. I also realize many of these people come from cultures with low fiber consumption. But it's similar enough that they should be able to make the leap and imagine. They have had a large mass up their ass. They regularly pass something through their rectums that's a couple inches in diameter, and then get on with their days.
It's just not all that horrible. I'd even say it gives me a sense of satisfaction and pride, and a sense of wonderment about my body and its capabilities.
When people go on and on about gay sex being gross, it makes me step back and wonder whether my experience of defecation is wildly different from theirs, and what it might be like from their end. It's puzzling.
I wonder whether people would be as comfortable airing their anti-gay views in public if they realized it makes me picture them having a difficult time on the toilet. Which I then continue to picture every time I see them, even when they're not talking about gay rights.
It's hard to let go of a belief system in which you are, from birth, granted dominion over all the earth, created in the image of God, symbolized by your penetrating cock, and the fact that gay men use their cocks differently (and lesbians don't need them at all) is threatening to that system. You let gays get married, and next thing you know, women won't be obligated to flirt with you and random strangers on train platforms won't have to smile and nod when you feel like enlightening them about whatever unconsidered opinion pops into your head that day. It would be the end of civilization, basically.
So it's fine to have sex out of marriage, and it's fine to have non-procreative sex just for intimacy or fun, and it's fine to have sodomistic sex - blow jobs and anal and all the rest. Just as long as men remain definitively the fuckers.
But as I've said, all this is old hat. I've accepted it.
However, something that, in all seriousness, confuses me when someone can't imagine having a cock up their ass is: do these people not shit? Are they biological abberations that don't defecate? I realize it's not exactly the same. I also realize many of these people come from cultures with low fiber consumption. But it's similar enough that they should be able to make the leap and imagine. They have had a large mass up their ass. They regularly pass something through their rectums that's a couple inches in diameter, and then get on with their days.
It's just not all that horrible. I'd even say it gives me a sense of satisfaction and pride, and a sense of wonderment about my body and its capabilities.
When people go on and on about gay sex being gross, it makes me step back and wonder whether my experience of defecation is wildly different from theirs, and what it might be like from their end. It's puzzling.
I wonder whether people would be as comfortable airing their anti-gay views in public if they realized it makes me picture them having a difficult time on the toilet. Which I then continue to picture every time I see them, even when they're not talking about gay rights.
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Date: 2013-03-29 01:37 am (UTC)We are, after all (and as you have pointed out) biologically developed to feel good when something passes through our butts. There's all kinds of nerves and stuff in there.
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Date: 2013-03-29 04:34 am (UTC)