It has been observed that there is a strong continuity of Romie; although I may appear eccentric or mysterious to some, I closely resemble myself across time -- behaviors, reactions, and habits recognizably mine back to age 2 and earlier. Therefore, one of my biggest peeves is when someone tells me I've changed. I normally haven't. They've normally just forgotten what I'm like. Which makes me wonder whether we're still friends. This is the reason I tend to be evasive about major life events like marriage, graduation, professional success. It's an excuse for people to say "oh, now [this and this]" when always [this and this].
I just got an "ooh you've become so fancy and formal now" from somebody who has been a close friend since I was 10 because I wrote a thank-you note instead of sending a text. Never mind that I never text. Or that I've had prominently displayed pen, ink, sealing wax, and stationery collections for decades, used to spend hours developing handwriting and lettering styles, create illuminated manuscripts, worry that electronically printed documents look cheap because they don't have the natural emboss of a letterpress, and bitch about it when people give me card sets that "aren't the way I want to represent myself to the world."
So yes, I'm fancy and formal, if you want to put it that way, and stodgy, and archaic, and precious, and you are clearly not getting thank you notes from me anymore.
But aside from that, I'm really unhappy with being stereotyped, and this is exactly why I don't tell people about my life.
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